Very early in life I learned a very valuable lesson….ATTITUDE ….IS….EVERYTHING. What do you think about when you hear that word? I believe most people associate it with something negative and unsettling but it doesn’t have to be that way. Why is it that we train our hearts and minds to expect the worst in situations? Attitude isn’t all about pain, in fact Merriam-Webster defines attitude as…
….a feeling or way of thinking that affects a person’s behavior.
For lack of better terms, what you put into something is what you get out of it. You can have all the talent in the world but if your attitude isn’t compatible then it’ll all go to waste.
I was 22 and in my first year of graduate school. Living in a new city and ready for a new adventure. I had heard about an opportunity to be an intern in the communications department of a professional sports franchise and I knew I had the skills, experience and personality for the job. I went in for the interview a little nervous but excited because I just knew the job was mine. It was going well, I was being polite, answered their questions and they seemed overall impressed. Then, one question changed my whole attitude. There is that word again. Now it has been a few years so the wording isn’t exact but one of the interviewers asked…
“As a female, working around a bunch of professional male athletes do you think you’ll be able to handle it professionally?”
Now on the outside I was as cool as a cucumber but inside I was flaming hot. My mind starting assuming the worst and I began to curse and yelling internally upset that he had the nerve to question if I was there for the job opportunity or personal opportunities with the players. I answered the question calmly and professionally letting them know like any other employee my job is my #1 priority and to me they would be like any other client or person and I wouldn’t be persuaded by their “fame.”
While it may seem like the rest of the interview went well, I know longer felt like anything I said mattered. My attitude went from Happy Harriet to Debbie Downer. I gave up on myself and no longer felt like I stood a chance. In the end you may have guessed it but I did not get the job. It went to a young man whom I felt I had more experience then at the time. Now about seven years later he is doing extremely well for himself in the industry. Don’t fret. I did get offered a different position because they “liked me” and while it wasn’t at all close to the first position I still took it.
I realized in that moment that once my attitude changed, my confidence fell and so did my odds. I knew I had to bring positivity back into the situation so I humbly excepted the lower position and in the long run I have made tons of connections and enjoyed amazing experiences along the way.
All I can say is whatever it is you do in life make sure you do it with the right