#Day4- Don’t Be Afraid to Say No

“It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself and to make your Happiness a priority. It’s necessary.”- Mandy Hale

It took me a long time to learn how to say no to people I really care about. Not a simple no like when someone ask if you want something to drink but the kind of no that makes you feel bad that if you don’t agree to do something for others.

For a while I felt like I owed people. Who? Well pretty much everyone who has been in my life since I was a kid. From aunts to family friends I feel like I had to do whatever they wanted because they helped take care of me when my mother passed away.

It sounds crazy but I really felt this way. Whether I was asked for money or to babysit or to go wash dishes, in my head I was like heck no but my heart wouldn’t let my mouth speak those words. I felt like saying no would mean I would lose them forever.

Then I gave myself a reality check! I realized that saying no especially when it’s something I don’t have or really don’t want to do doesn’t mean that I don’t care about those people but that in that moment my happiness and my financial problems were priority.

I won’t lie sometimes I still have a hard time saying no to certain things but I am now at a place where I know that my happiness is first and everything else is a close second.

Published by: Pieces of Me

Often times we find ourselves hoping to following our minds rather than our hearts and we soon realize it's not the case. we get so caught up in our feelings and allow the stream of tears to sway us into making short term decisions that has long term effects. Sometimes we need to take a step back from ourselves and look at things from the outside. Ask ourselves is it worth it? Will I be ok with my decision tomorrow? Once we decide that it is worth losing we need to breathe in release and let go! No looking back, no regrets, just high hopes for the future, less frowns and more smiles. My name is Jordean Matthews and I am a native of Pleasantville, NJ. This blog showcases all things that are me. My life, my talents, my thoughts, my family. It truly displays all the pieces of me.

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