“It doesn’t matter how slowly you move as long as you do not stop.”-Confusius
When I was in high school I always said I would be married and have my first kid by the time I was 25. I am a few months away from 30 and not even close to being in a relationship. So much for that prediction.
At 25 I joined the Army, lived in Korea towards the end of that birth year and didn’t think I was missing out on anything. Soon all my friends started having babies, getting engaged, going on Baecations and eventually I started that self pity movement. It was pretty sad.
I started comparing my life to others, wondering what they did to deserve their victories while I kept losing so much. One day I had to check myself and realize that no matter how many times I count the wins of others, it won’t take away from my loses. The only thing that could really make me feel better is when I started claiming victories of my own and so I did.
I got a bunch of degrees, I travel around the world, learn a few new skills, got a few apartments on my own, bought my own cars, built my credit and that made me stand out in the winners circle.
So while I will be 30 soon, I don’t need the husband, the kids, the house or the perfect job right now because I am building towards that and it will come when I am ready to accept them fully.
Tonight as I helped a friend of mine celebrate getting his first apartment it made me realize something. While he and I are basically the same age and I have already has 3-4 apartments on my own, his first one doesn’t hold any less value. He got it when he was able to maintain it and that is how I want to enjoy my victories in life.
So while I don’t have everything I want right now, it’ll come and I’d rather it be later on in life then not at all.