#Day7- Better Late Than Never

“It doesn’t matter how slowly you move as long as you do not stop.”-Confusius

When I was in high school I always said I would be married and have my first kid by the time I was 25. I am a few months away from 30 and not even close to being in a relationship. So much for that prediction.

At 25 I joined the Army, lived in Korea towards the end of that birth year and didn’t think I was missing out on anything. Soon all my friends started having babies, getting engaged, going on Baecations and eventually I started that self pity movement. It was pretty sad.

I started comparing my life to others, wondering what they did to deserve their victories while I kept losing so much. One day I had to check myself and realize that no matter how many times I count the wins of others, it won’t take away from my loses. The only thing that could really make me feel better is when I started claiming victories of my own and so I did.

I got a bunch of degrees, I travel around the world, learn a few new skills, got a few apartments on my own, bought my own cars, built my credit and that made me stand out in the winners circle.

So while I will be 30 soon, I don’t need the husband, the kids, the house or the perfect job right now because I am building towards that and it will come when I am ready to accept them fully.

Tonight as I helped a friend of mine celebrate getting his first apartment it made me realize something. While he and I are basically the same age and I have already has 3-4 apartments on my own, his first one doesn’t hold any less value. He got it when he was able to maintain it and that is how I want to enjoy my victories in life.

So while I don’t have everything I want right now, it’ll come and I’d rather it be later on in life then not at all.

Published by: Pieces of Me

Often times we find ourselves hoping to following our minds rather than our hearts and we soon realize it's not the case. we get so caught up in our feelings and allow the stream of tears to sway us into making short term decisions that has long term effects. Sometimes we need to take a step back from ourselves and look at things from the outside. Ask ourselves is it worth it? Will I be ok with my decision tomorrow? Once we decide that it is worth losing we need to breathe in release and let go! No looking back, no regrets, just high hopes for the future, less frowns and more smiles. My name is Jordean Matthews and I am a native of Pleasantville, NJ. This blog showcases all things that are me. My life, my talents, my thoughts, my family. It truly displays all the pieces of me.

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